Ss is now 18. Bm or her parents must do all the picking up and dropping
off if they want to see ss. No more court orders. Yet some behaviors on the part of bm
and her parents continue. This time I write her...
"Several years ago when your father was picking up (ss) he stuck
his nose to our sliding glass front door to snoop, not noticing I was on
the upper level at my computer watching him.
next time he picked up (ss) he was again trying to snoop.
My girls watched him from upstairs. I watched him from the
computer. He noticed the attention, stopped snooping and then paced the
When he came to pick up (ss)
today I saw him snooping again in the sliding glass front door. (ss)
opened the front door and your father stood in the doorway not noticing
me at the computer about fifteen feet away. (ss)
told him he wasn’t finished packing. Your dad asked if anyone was home
and was about to step inside our home. (ss)
told him his stepmother was home. Your dad stopped. Oddly, your dad
didn’t look up – he would have seen me staring right at him. (ss)
told him he’d be downstairs in five minutes. Grandpa left.
of you are welcome in our home. I am putting you and your parents on
notice that if any of you come into our home, you will be
arrested for trespassing (since you have now been warned according to
procedure and I will have saved a copy of this to be used when the
police are called - per their instructions) and a restraining order will
be put in place.
line and asking to talk to (dh), your phone calls to our home phone,
phone calls to (dh)’s work, or to our cell phones (including the
girls’ cell phones), are not welcome.
If that happens again, or if your parents begin to call those
numbers, we will take further steps to address that situation. The first
step is filing a report with the police regarding 653M annoying
harrassing phone calls. Then
if another phone call is made, a restraining order is filed. You and
your parents have now been warned according to procedure.
and your parents may, of course, continue to call (ss)’s home phone or
cell phone. Do NOT
call our home phone number, the girls’ phone number, or any of our
cell phones to try to reach (ss). The girls are not required to take a
message from you, from your parents, or from anyone else for (ss). You
always have the option of leaving him a voice mail on his home phone
and/or his cell phone, to email and/or snail mail him.
In the event of an emergency about (ss) when (ss) could not call you himself, we would call you to
let you know, and expect you to do the same."