dh - darling husband
bm - biomom
ss - stepson
sd - stepdaughter
dd - darling daughter
ds - darling son
Dh had custody of his son from age 9
months to age 5. He voluntarily gave up custody to his
exwife when he lost his job and a place to live. She lived with
her parents in a nice neighborhood, and his son would start at a good
kindergarten. She and her parents severely restricted visitation
for the next 5 years.
We started dating when ss was about 6 years old.
Court improved visitation '96 when he was 10 years old.
Bm wrote that he'd left 2 pairs of jeans.
Dds' and I
searched. Found 2 pairs that didn't belong to them. Dh mailed them to bm.
Dh received Bms
4/28/97 letter about the 2 pairs of jeans are not sss, either find
the right jeans or give
her $40, and if he doesnt - (ss) will lose $40 out of his allowance
for your willful withholding of his belongings and spiteful
game-playing. It is not in
(ss's) best interest to be punished for what you are doing and you
shouldnt want him to suffer for it. It takes him a long time to save $40.00.
Think about that. (ss) could get his 40 dollars back if you
would help him out a little.
Ss receives an allowance of $2 a week from bm.
Dh wrote her he wasn't giving her the $40, and he has
no control over how she treats ss.
The next time dh went to pick up ss, bm indignantly demanded the
$40. Dh repeated, "I told you, I'm not giving you $40." Bm
triumphantly turned to ss and told him, "You owe me $40!" Ss
didn't care. He was so happy to be leaving with his dad he was jumping
up and down from excitement. The wind went out of bm's sails.
She didn't know that since visitation had been improved, ss was
getting the same allowance my daughters get - their age in allowance
every week. He wasn't worried about the $40.