not the onlydeadbeats.
"She" can be one too!
When you look at the deadbeat sites, ask yourself if you're
behaving like a deadbeat, and remember that men are victims of "her"
deadbeat mentality also.
Whether you are a custodial parent, a non-custodial parent, a
first wife, a second wife, a girlfriend, a boyfriend, ask yourself if you're behaving in
the best interest of the child.
'99 dh wins custody. Evaluator said bm must pick up ss, dh must
pick up ss.
"As for meeting 1/2 way, I've never been in favor of
that. There's too many times that one parent is late (and sometimes for
a very good reason) and then the other parent (and even the child,
depending on who is late) has to sit in a car and wait. A better way to
do it is for whoever is "getting" the child does the driving
(if he's coming to my house I drive, if he's going to my ex's house she
drives). That way if someone IS late, the other parent and the child are
at least in their own home while they wait. The total driving for each
parent is the same as meeting 1/2 way, but you eliminate some of the
negatives. Also, the child is never driving in a car with someone who's
saying "goodbye" to him. He's always getting in a car and
saying "hello". And saying "hello" is much easier
than "goodbye" (on the child as well as the parents)."
Bm and her father arrive to pick up ss for the first
time. I'm sitting up on the next level at my computer. Dh is
can't see me watching him as he presses his nose to the sliding glass
opens the front door (not the sliding glass door), steps out and bm
lists off the things to ss she wants to make sure he has. He comes back
into the house to get the stuff, and leaves the front door open. The cat
heads toward the front door, and bm leans in the door cooing towards the
cat. I speak up from the computer, "Can you close the door
before the cat gets out?" I realize quickly that's not going to
work. I get up, rush to the door and close it. The cat moves to
the sliding glass door, and bm coos to her thru the door. I pick up the
cat and put her in my bedroom.
dh - darling husband
bm - biomom
ss - stepson
sd - stepdaughter
dd - darling daughter
ds - darling son